If confidence is posture, as I’ve argued, you simply need to ensure you “correct” your confidence throughout the day. One way to do that is with a trigger, something that reminds you to reframe.

Hear me out: door frames. Reasons:

1. They’re perfectly placed (you have to walk through one or more to get to where you’re going)
2. It’s liberating to step beyond a threshold as if you’re leaving your old self behind
3. People make snap judgements about you when you enter a room, so you should reframe into your best self the moment you make your entrance

I now see door frames as checkpoints, like in a video game. Each time my body passes through one I’m replenished.

That may seem like a nutty self-delusion, but it’s indispensable when the ego takes a hit (which, in the game of seduction, is par for the course). In your interactions with women, your self-esteem will get knocked around. Either a woman is interested, in which case she may “shit test” you relentlessly (I’m writing this a day after sleeping with someone just hours before she called me a “cheapskate” for not buying dinner), or you get rejected, which in some instances can be cruel. In either scenario you end up battered and bruised, so you may as well develop a strategy to mend your wounds between incoming shots.

Sometimes in movies the nervous and out-of-sorts protagonist will go into a public restroom and regroup by splashing cold water on his face and taking a deep breath before leaving with a smile. It looks a bit ridiculous on screen but this sort of refresh-and-restart ritual is a powerful stratagem that will serve you well in your dealings with life and women. If you’re on a night out, for example, with plans to float in and out of various venues, are you going to let one bad experience in location A affect how you show up in location B?

Door frames, I’m telling you. They’re you’re friend.